It is high time that the attitude of the parents towards the children have changed. At all instances, Indian parents want to exhibit and bring out whatever they could not attain in their lives through their children. It is a very maddening situation. Each child has his own potential. This must be identified and nurtured. Had the parents of Sachin Tendulkar and Lata Mangeshkar restricted them from being into sports or arts, these geniuses would have never born. Every child has a different level of intelligence quotient, which never matches another person’s. Forcing them to rise to the levels of others or acquiring the talents and skills exhibited by them is practically impossible. The parents must understand that their children are not the means to fulfill all their wishes and aspirations. When they consistently put the child under pressure, they must take a moment to look back and evaluate their own performances as a student. This will definitely prove that the kids are much better than them.
The answer they give to this criticism is that their parents never took so much care of their studies. Now the question I have to pose to these parents is that who asks them to take so much trouble? Leave the child to himself. Let him explore his horizons. Let him grab the opportunities. Let me remind the parents that they are in no way doing anything for the betterment of the students, except that they add to the stress of their kids. This eventually ruins them. When the child learns out of pressure and stress, learning becomes a tedious exercise and not at all an enjoyable one. There are propositions that fear is necessary for good understanding. This has been nurtured by certain coaching institutes especially those run for entrance coaching. I completely reject the proposition.
People must not forget that ‘Education is the manifestation of the perfection already in man.’ It not the by hearting of questions and their answers, it’s not about vomiting the memorized stuff into the answer papers. Another warning to parents is that every child cannot be the number one. There is series of numbers to go. And being number one in the academic field does not mean being number one in life. Acquiring skills is all the more important.
All my lamentations do not mean to let loose all ties. But my intention was to stress that too much control is dangerous. This may end up in rebelling kids and also children facing the risk of being affected by depression. So parents, please beware of your child being damaged mentally. Your selfishness aiming at their excellence may end up in you losing them. There is no scope for regrets after that but only uncompensated losses. So parents must make it a point to engage themselves in their own arenas, exploring the unexplored in them, as age is no limit for development of an individual. This is especially applicable to the unemployed mothers, who think of their kids and hubby day and night, which is again a dangerous situation…
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